I just hit mid-thirties.
If you are going to enter a marathon race, you will be placed in the Veteran category. No shit. Hahaha.
My relatives say I have this motherly look. What that means is that with just a glance, people will know that I have kid(s). To me, motherly literally means – I have panda eyes, and my face looks puffy and wrinkly, and I pandai bargain in the wet market, I suddenly got very interested in kitchen-ware, and love sharing recipes. Basically, like an Ah Sou.
Nevertheless, there is nothing I love more about myself than achieving mid-30s. I feel mature, I feel empowered at work, I feel I am in control of my household. I am happy with my relationships at home with my hubby, siblings, with in-laws, and my own parents and relatives. I am happy with my job and being a career woman. I have some assets (properties, investments, not body assets). I am not bragging, but I am grateful to be given various opportunities in life to see and experience so many things in this world:
- 1. I drank good coffee before
- 2. I drank bad coffee before
- 3. I got a many degrees – biology, Ph.D. and recently – chemistry.
- 4. I have obtained a Scholarship before.
- 5. I have been an exchanged student before overseas.
- 6. I have completed a triathlon and a duathlon. I swam in the open-ocean before.
- 7. I have 40 open water dives logged around SEA – Thailand, Malaysia, Indonesia
- 8. I have completed 6 full marathons.
- 9. I have lived overseas – China, Netherlands, Singapore
- 10. I have experienced blind dating, meeting a guy online and regretted it because he’s so not like his Friendster profile
- 11. I have gotten drunk and drove drunk for 10 km (If I remember).
- 12. I bribed a cop before.
- 13. Got caught for DUI before.
- 14. I have sung on the stage in public before
- 15. I studied a foreign language before – Japanese
- 16. I have traveled to many countries around the world before
- 17. I have kissed a complete stranger before. <– drunk
- 18. I have been embarrassed in public before – usually involving clothing malfunction
- 19. I raced up KL Tower before. *proud*
- 20. The highest I’ve been in Twin Towers is 74th floor.
- 21. I own a luxury bag (relatively expensive)
- 22. I have helped a stranger before by giving him/her my money, and not asking it back.
- 23. I almost died due to a medical condition before.
- 24. ….And came back alive and became a motherfarter…
- 25. I stayed in a dorm with total strangers before.
- 26. I acted like a bitch before, throwing tantrums and not giving in.
- 27. I have experienced both bloody childbirth and c-sect. The pain!
- 28. I must have had 6-7 dates including boyfriends, before I found my hubby. Wait, maybe 10.
- 29. I met with 2 major car accidents before.
- 31. My car got stolen before.
- 32. I have been baptized a Christian.
- 33. I am a landlady
- 34. I am a wife
- 35. I am a mother
Glad to announce:
I have not smoked before.
I have not taken drugs before.
I have not experienced studying overseas before (I really wish)
I have not done plastic surgery before.
I have not ate weird foods before and will never try – reptiles, fried insects, live octopus, raw herring, blue cheese, etc.
I have not seen the death of a human being before.
I know can never (but never say never!) be a stay-at-home-mum as my brains are constantly churning chemistry reactions for the development of new chemicals, thus I kinda think nobody at home would appreciate my brilliant, scientific (ahem!) mind. And tell you, I hate managing my home and my son 24 hours, 365 days a year. He can be so cute that I wanna kiss him all the time, but that’s just it. Otherwise, my son can be quite annoying because consciously I enjoy my freedom as an individual, hence I hope to just see him at night (kidding, but 50% truth) (I am a good mother ok but I need my ME-time back). I love my kid, but I also love the office, the laboratory, my colleagues, the rat race, and I like to get my brains work out hard…and most importantly: I get to bring back a chunk of salary.
To say I am an accomplished woman, nope. But to say I have hit some good milestones in life, then yes. I still think I have a long way to go to achieve –
1. financial freedom
2. having successful kids (though you have to define success)
3. leave a good legacy in this world (e.g. breakthrough in scientific discoveries, charity, save tigers, 😛 ).
4. sleep without anyone disturbing <– (never say never)