Most Wonderful Time of the Year

It’s December.

Time flies by me swiftly in 2015.

But there was this one month that I felt that time stood still: it was the month of October following the birth of Daniel. It felt long because I got very hormonal and pretty stressed out because of my son’s jaundice and my breastfeeding issues. Five days in the hospital did take a toll on myself and my hubby. At that time, I felt I should have chosen a nearer hospital because of my hubby’s frequent travels from home/office to hospital, but can swear that the service and facilities (i.e. doctors, nurses, staff, rooms) in Prince Court is pretty amazing, so it was a tradeoff.

Maybe I have not embraced motherhood yet, but many things didn’t feel right on the first week, and nothing went as planned upon my son’s birth. Funny, but it wasn’t really love at first sight with my son. In week-2, I had my C-sec wound broken and was admitted to Sunway MC. It made me so mad (at myself) because this incident has devastatingly troubled my mum, my MIL, my hubby, my dad and more so, my newborn son. I was still under confinement period; my mum had to cook confinement food and bring it to the hospital. I couldn’t see my son to latch; a day less of bonding with my son felt instinctively strange, like I’ve abandoned my son.

Time crawled too during the rest of the confinement period in Ipoh. I couldn’t bath all that much which made me feel really icky. I have always loved ginger but after 1 month of gingery foods, all food tasted so 1 dimensional, I did hate ginger at one point. What was worse, something triggered hives and itchy spots all over my body (exactly like the one I had last year in Chiang Mai). This allergy(?) worsens after direct intake of DOM or YOMEISHU. The alcohol must have aggravated the hives and itchiness further. I have yet to pinpoint the allergen. Blame it on hormones?

Daniel at exactly 1 month-old.
Papa doesn’t want to miss any of his growth!

November 2015 was intimidating nevertheless. After the default 1-month-confinement, I extended my confinement to 40 days at my MIL’s house in Ipoh. And hubby felt terribly left-out because he missed a lot of baby’s development milestone when he was in KL. The terrifying thing was that after confinement, I decided to return to KL and take care of my son all by myself without help of my own parents nor in-laws. I was terrified because I fear I may not be able to juggle between baby and managing my home. But guess what, as of now, it’s been 6 weeks since I last took care of my son all alone during the day. For that, I have to give myself a pat in the back – for raising my child who put on ample weight/height and having witness first hand his development milestones, AND still didn’t burn the house down 🙂 Well done, Ivy.

Hao-kong-chai pose

By now, time flies by me a bit too quickly! My son turns 12-weeks old today. One thing I am thankful for was that he doesn’t wail like a newborn anymore. His cries have ‘meaning’, like a language (=short cries, long cries, angry cries, complaining cries etc.) telling you whether he’s hungry, he has pooped or he is not happy with my nipples. These development makes things so much easier for me. He socially interacts with me and papa: cooing, laughing, smiling, talking, ang gugu me, loving Christmas lights and music. He can sleep through the night too. Now I am so in love with my son! Only now I appreciate motherhood and my newborn son antics (not so newborn anymore eh?). He is such a happy kiddo and quite cheeky, with new development milestones achieved day after day, I now am terrified to send him to the babysitter in January. All because I am afraid to miss his milestones and yes, it’s termed: separation anxiety.

Work is about to begin. Now I feel that time flies way too quickly. I was relieved to have found a 1-to-1 babysitter in Puchong but on the other hand, I fear I might have separation anxiety at office. Thank God Daniel loves sitting on the car seat which makes my life a notch much easier when I want to run errands and sending him to babysitter. Also, he loves going kai-kai. I think the 1st week at office after this 3-month maternity leave would be the hardest.

Daniel loves the car seat and kai-kai

Anyways, cutting the story short – I feel awesome as a mum now. It took me 1.5 months to embrace motherhood as a first-time mum. So much more for me and papa to learn, but for me, it’s all about being PATIENT.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from the Fongs.

Thank you for an awesome Year 2015.


Til Next Year 2016. Ivy-out.



Life Changing 2013

Happy New Year 2014!

Last year 2013, I didn’t have time to recap the moments of the entire year. I was so caught up with events in December that I kinda forgot all about blogging.

In short, 2013 was one of the greatest years in my life (well, I said that every end of the year, don’t I?). Hmmpph. But really, 2013 was not only great but was life-changing. I have gotten my long awaited double promotion, and long-awaited chance to be married. Sounds desperate, but I am not desperate. I do work hard for it. Stuffs sometimes just happen and it goes in your favour. God’s will.


1. I was being proposed to by one of the most amazing guy on earth (ok lah, exaggerate a bit here), but I love him; my family and relatives adores him; we share the same passion. etc. And with that, came a diamond ring. If you know me well, naturally I don’t really care how many carats it was, but the 2-weeks secret proposal effort did make me cry, and that was all that matters. Read it all here.

2. Malaysia General Election clogged up almost all conversations in the office, coffeeshops, homes, etc. during first quarter of the year. Read my thoughts and experiences in one of the most dramatic and ‘dirtiest’ GE of all times.

3. My birthday was also my ROM. There was I, signing my name off. Sounds morbid but it was actually my mum and dad’s dream to see me married off, as many would have said: Ivy might never get married cause her character is….(insert masculine adjective(s) here)…. Of course, the myth was debunked.

4. We signed up for a wedding photography package and made Cameron Highlands our outdoor location shoot. Thanks to Jacky from Bridal Collection and some luck with the cooling weather and sunset, we’ve got ourselves some breathtaking photographs. At the same time, we really had lots of fun doing the whole shoot, and it was sooo cooling. No sweat, literally! Read the experiences and my current take of weddings here.

5. Fong has gotten a new double-storey link house for us to begin our lives together, and so we worked hard, day and night to personalized our pad. With much money thrown in, I think we are both happy to get ourselves a place in Klang Valley, where many young people could only dream of – a landed property. A lot of sweat poured in into doing our own painting, fixing of own cabinets, knobs, hinges, with no help of an ID. From there, I found that Fong does make full use of his PE in civil engineering – such a great handyman and has much knowledge in renovation, he could be a salaried Renovator himself. Plus, I remembered going IKEA 5 times in one month.

6. Just like every year …*ZzzzZzZzZ*….I had to prepare for my naik-pangkat assessment. This year, I did it! Promotion! Smiling from cheek-to-cheek when my payslip arrived just the other month.

7. I went to Beijing twice for meetings and another for a business attachment. Me being me, I make sure I explore the city like a tourist, but on the other hand, going to many roads less traveled. I try to absorb in as much as I could about the country, while maintaining my own cultural integrity, also making every trip a time for self-discovery and a learning process. From there, I never had the same thought about China ever again. Funny, but I love China, and my colleagues were jokingly asking me to ‘balik China’ again as I was bragging about my VIP treatments in Beijing, oh well….so much better compared to my treatment as a chinese in my own country.

Photos of my 1.5 months business attachment will soon be posted on my PICASA. Here are some sneak peeks:

8.  My appraisal/performance this year scored me another promotion and consequently, a long-awaited salary upgrade that brings to my face, a larger smile. That makes it a double-promotion this year alone! I worked my ass out this year (harder!) and finally, finally…phew…got noticed.

9. Achieved the best full marathon time ever with at 5hrs 24 mins in the SCKLM. And I could proudly say that I ran this race alone. I gave myself a pat in the back before retiring from races for the rest of this year ’til my wedding in March 2014.

10. I have gotten myself a beautiful sister-in-law (Ipoh girl mahh), as my elder brother tiba-tiba preceded me in getting married. I said “tiba-tiba” because it was Fong and I who announced our marriage first, but their wedding was done earlier than ours. I am so happy for them both and wish them both the best as husband and wife. At the same time, our family moved into our new bungalow in Tambun. My parents were so proud this year alone; it shows in their faces every time I go back to Ipoh.

I pray that this year 2014 would be another memorable one for me. This will be the year of my wedding, and I have great hopes for my career to be a Certified Chemist (just in case you didn’t know, I am a biologist working my ass off as a chemist). This is also the year where our government will be imposing the GST and has had many items increase in prices including electricity, water (ice!), food, toll, etc….in response to the bad results they obtain in GE(?). Some sort of revenge, eh?  Meh, I am not surprised that our federal government is retaliating. Hah! Happy BN (Barang Naik) year of 2014.

God bless and lots of hugs to my loyal readers.

Year of Reckoning

The world as you know it will end in 21 Dec 2012. This movie depicted the so-ever-frightening events that ensue before the world ends (sh*t, I am going to drown in some tsunami). Well, well, if you did not know yet, 2012-12-21 doomsday is actually a projection of some Mayan people and their calendar. Okay, […]

My wishlish 2011

>Tick tock… tick tock…tick tock…*boring giler*….

Half an hour feels like ‘forever’. My bags are packed and I’m ready to go…home. Work finishes at 5pm and ….hmpph…I have ‘forever’ to….hmmphh…maybe fill in a post or two anything:

Let’s see. It’s definitely way too late to put my NY’s resolution, no? Okay, maybe a list of WANTS (TO-DO) this year 2011.

1. A good vacation somewhere faarr. Can’t complain in this department. I’ve got HK in my bag already that automatically come with a half-marathon. But HK ain’t too far. I’ve got a Scuba diving trip this September in Tulamben, Bali. Can I put another vacation in between now and Bali, say…Australia, Siem Reap, Anzac?

2. Bali. Yes, I need to get a good dive package for all 4 of us. Almost forgot.

3. KL Marathon 2011 (26 June 2011) – I am going to push myself beyond my physical comfort for this race. I am aiming for 2:15. If I can do 2:21 in darn cold weather in HK, I can do it in KL (with ample hydration, of course).

4. Set to run thrice a week….towards a full marathon in 2 years time. 

5. Slim down 1.5 kg. I am at my optimal weight now, which consequently means that it’s a tat more difficult to reduce my weight even it’s a little itsy weeny bit more. To do that, I need to reduce my greediness.

6. Spend more money on anything I want and whatever that makes me happy. Clothes, coffee, vacations, classy food, bak kut teh, make up, perfume, bag berjenama, on family, on shoes, conserving turtles, orchestra, theatres, on plays, on my boyfriend, on romantic dates, on comedy night, spend spend spend spend!!! 

7. ….and with the little extra money I’ve got, derma them to Japan (via a legal route). You guys need to tell me how to donate, and if my money reaches (or not!). How to know ar? 


8.  Drink a whole pint of Guinness draft this year. And why not this Saturday with the girls?! It’s St. Patricks Day this whole week anyway!

Now, that’s not too bad for a restless half hour. Just about the right time to fong kong or pang kang!!

>December 2010


Wow, what a month. Filled with activities and many joyous occasions. Never a month so happening. Of course, most of the time, esp. when you’re in Malaysia, it involves this thing call food.

First of all, congratulations to my bestie Pink for getting married. Indeed it was a fairy tale wedding. Pls pray for me it will someday be my turn……as wonderful as yours (I’m optimistic, but it could be a long wait..hahaha). I am already missing you as my cool housemate and clubbing kaki

OPS’s wedding was the week before. Was a simple but joyous occasion nonetheless. The so ever tall friend of mine got a wife as tall has he 😉 (She is tall!). I have to mention this: the jazz band that they hired that night was damn good. Best I’ve ever experienced in a wedding dinner. Though consist of only a keyboardist and a female soloist, they were absolutely brilliant. All the latest songs (think: Bruno Mars) and the male keyboardist had this really mellow voice. Was glad that I made a few new friends from HK that was at the table. I’ve never spoke soo much Cantonese in one night! One of them will be joining the Stand Chart Hong Kong Marathon this February as well.

SIF-Alumni: Lum, Me, Ee Yee at OPS’s wedding dinner

Oh yah, my car arrived early Dec. Sold my junk away for a very very safe buy – a Vios. And just 2 days after I got my car, someone purportedly farted (times 5) in it. I am pissed ’til today(!) and therefore want this ‘disastrous incident’ to be mentioned in this post and written in my history books … for forever. LOL

The Malakoff 12km run at Mont. Kiara/Damansara Heights was quite relaxing. My gang arrived to a huge crowd of runners; probably 12 km is very much achievable for many. Plus, the weather was just right for the run. Finally met Farah (yay!) at the starting line after our countless unsuccessful meet-ups at previous races. 
This is how we ‘carbo-load’. No, it’s more like ‘protein-load’. HUGE, BEST-GRADE MACADEMIA NUTS from SYDNEY 

Aunt’s kindergarden always become the party spot.
Baby Jasmine: German mix Indian-Chinese

My Christmas was celebrated on Sunday. Went to regular church service with dad and then went up to Klang to pick up my mum from my aunt’s place. Somewhat an annual event, we celebrated Boxing Day at Aunt Nancy’s and Chris kindergarten. I always always attend their dinner parties cause it never fails to impress me – the food is extensive and delicious, the party-goers are in a class of their own, the drinks are ample from Holland beer to a 21-year-Chivas to ice kacang. And my cousin just got a new little 6 week-old baby call Jasmine. Adorable to the max & fearless of parties and noise!    

My beer from Holland. Smoooooth….
Their free-flow of any type of booze or ice kacang or cendol u desire.

Of course, Malaysia won the Suzuki Cup. Never heard of this Cup, til….last week. Whatever it is, I had a bunch of replacement holidays to be wasted off due to this win. I’m in Ipoh and it’s still December 2010. I’m still expecting a bunch of yum chas, food and booze before the year ends.

Other worth mentioning and I-had-so-much-fun events in Dec:
Callie’s German Xmas party. “Frohe Weihnachten”!! 
Colleagues at ‘Penang Village’ celebrating our boss’ Birthday
Beloved Uncle Max at L’s Xmas dinner party

I’m absolutely optimistic about 2011. Dream more, may your dreams come true.  

“You may say that I’m a dreamer, But I’m not the only one” 
John Lennon, taken from “Meet the Schmucks”



>I just woke up. Work can be taxing and tiring esp. when your work is 50% field work. Environmentalist marrr. Today, once I got home fr office, I ran a 5km, skipped dinner…..and slept at 8pm. I could tell the time I slept, cause the TV3 news just came on when I think I dozed off.

Now wide awake, I immediately continue restructuring a major part of my Ph.D. thesis(?!!?) and mumbled to myself why the thesis is never ever perfect for my Prof. or was it that they don’t quite get what my research is all about (=bad thesis) and I have to keep rephrasing my sentences? And yes…many ppl still asked me why the hell am I still having late nights despite work starts at 8am. THAT WAS WHY.

I am full of little-little set-backs this year. Well, who doesn’t have unlucky days? This year wasn’t too good for me cause I wasn’t quite in my “zone”. Anyways, hope that 2010 would be a great year – afreshed, renewed. I dunno why, but I can’t wait for the new year.

As usual, I would recap my year with significant events that have both saddened and delighted me:

January – CNY at KL, Ipoh, Bahau, Bukit Mertajam with my ex; I started Salsa classes at Havana with Callie

February – Swimming classes in Klang begins, which paid me well $$$$. But I was always catching a cold and my health was very fragile; my ex’s mum passed away 😦

March – There’s a swimming class almost daily; $$$$ vs. cold/flu

April – Our currently stalled project – Petite Pink was launched.

May – Ph.D. thesis due; teaching swimming a lot

June – My low-profile birthday. My ex’s dad passed away 😦 Broke-up due to inconcillable differences, Standard Chartered KL Marathon (my first competitive run in 5 years)

July – Baptised at FGA Ipoh! PETRONAS structured interview and passed!

August – Amazing Bali with Jonie, Riza, Nina, Cynthia!!

Sept – Hantar thesis. PIPE training at Bangi; Coffee-overdosed; Salsa Havana; My OWN swimming classes.

October – Real work starts; my thesis thrown back at my stupid face for major corrections; Wacky Bar @ Jaya One.

November – My first gaji….ooo0… belanja satu dunia! Coffee-overdosed (again).

December – LOL @ Comedy Night at Zouk! and… upcoming xmas eve party!

More importantly, I am still one piece! Despite all, I still really love my life.

I am actually very blessed. Although one is never ever satisfied (human nature mar), can’t complain much la, kan…

My selection for word of the year 2009: “Salam 1Malaysia”, “Booms!”, “See you at the run”, “Teoh Beng Hock”

>My first inaugural post 2009. Thank you.

>Welcome to Ivy-kini & selamanya!

I turned 3++years:

I am proud to have had this blog as my official writing space since Oct 2005 where I first blogged about Paris vs. Hilton. This blog has been revamped several times, but in 2009, if you noticed, all I did was to make the backdrop simpler (colourless). Thank you for your continual support of my writings and postings here. Thanks for the comments and I am glad there are people who love my postings and read them! I will continue to write/post more to this blog this year and forgive me for having my own style in writing because … one’s perfect 🙂